Dating no joining up sites
Another option is a sort of "disguised picture" - so headshot in sunglasses at an angle - so you aren't really recognizable unless someone is going to study it hard.
Also - what chatty said - people tend assume that a man without a photo was married so are super cautious. Internet dating is like going out for dinner on your own.
It's pointless, though: you'll not receive any messages (or will receive requests for sex which some men mass mail out to anyone with "female" in their stats, which will scare you off) so still won't really get any sense of whether you'll gel with it.
When I joined OLD I felt exactly the same I just had a browse no picture up very little details.
I’ve had some lovely messages and it doesn’t have the feel of a hook-up site.
Some people have profiles that say "due to the sensitivity of my job, I'm not posting a picture but am happy to email one after we've chatted".To start with it's all really traumatic, you think it's only for losers and you are deeply traumatised by the whole thing.