Dating people with kids
So, we’ve been together for three months now and everything is going very, very well. And believe me, I am no angel and have plenty of my own issues.We have tons of shared interests, practice yoga together and, yes, go to all of the NYC organic restaurants. What is even more remarkable is that we have never had one argument since we started spending time together. The Situation She is divorced (well, right on the verge of it becoming legal and having all the papers signed) and has two very young children.Furthermore, raising kids in NYC is an absolute fortune.3) I am too selfish and want my life to be about me and my partner.Having kids is a tremendous sacrifice, and I enjoy having my weekends free.4) Maybe it is as simple as kids just weren’t in the plan. What I Think About* This is the first time I have ever dated a woman who has young kids and am confronted with many things that I never faced before.There could be a few potential reasons why I don’t have this desire.1) The 11 years of Prozac and 3.5 years of recovering from Prozac really threw me for a loop and delayed many things in my life, from both a professional and personal standpoint.If one assumes that many people think about kids in their 30s, maybe I’ll get serious about having them in my mid-40s.Who cares what other people think about your standards?
Two little humans that perfect don’t come along twice. Since he was a baby, my son has traveled with me, gone to business seminars with me and literally done everything with me. I have overwhelming respect for anyone raising kids on their own because I know it can be a tough gig.This is why so many people fall victim to the "if you really love him, then you’ll overlook X, Y and Z" mentality. If you really love yourself, you wouldn’t settle for things you don’t want to begin with. Start by being honest with yourself and with what you really want. Very surprised that the discussion of our date ended up on the Internet (hey, that’s the peril of going out with a blogger, right????
), she ended up telling me that drinking wasn’t that important to her and that she would never drink in front of me, which she hasn’t — something that has not gone unnoticed or unappreciated. When these don’t work, as they often won’t, there’s always e HARRRRRRmony.