Physical boundaries in dating
[Curiously, actors, entertainers, and some athletes seem reasonably immune to the destructive effects of sexual impropriety to their careers . This dialog is actually part of an earlier edition of the book.
It did not make it into and the evidence of research psychology is that the ability to set boundaries and adhere to them, particularly where strong emotions are involved, represents the foundation for success in many areas.
But don’t panic: if your child is already dating, it’s not too late – you can still take the initiative to sit down and discuss physical limits.
There are three basic principles you’ll want to stress: 1) sex outside of marriage is not an option; 2) stay in control of your own body; and 3) always show respect for your body and your date’s.
However, the time to draw such boundaries is long before events that enflame emotions take place.
In the quietness of your room, perhaps with the assistance of a close friend, determine what boundaries will allow you to fully enjoy the pleasures of, in this case, physical closeness.
We begin our discussion of boundaries by stating flatly that we will expand this section in the future.
The concept of boundaries, vitally important to living a successful life, is curiously under researched by psychologists.